pdxguy
Well-Known Member
The whole 'spoiled' things has a lot of arguements to it. I can see how the jealousy comment seems to fit in, but I don't think that's really the case. I have been around numerous people that have had their lives handed to them (I'm sure we've all been around these people). There's a part of me that says, "Wow that must be nice to do (whatever) at any given time simply because Mommy and Daddy will get it for me". However, there's the reality part to that does say in most cases these people never learn to appreciate what they have and usually end up becoming those "brats" that were mentioned earlier.
Also, I realize that knowing I can't have anything at any given time means that I appreciate what I do have. I have worked for what I have.
Being a father, I'd love to provide my son with all of the great things that I didn't have as a child, but I also realize that raising a child in such a manner usually doesn't result in a responsible, mature adolescent. Therefore I choose not "spoil" him, and any temper tantrums that are thrown around, are quickly dismissed and whatever the tantrum was over is out the window.
In short, I have to side with 2extreme on this, but I can see where some of the other opinions on this subject may come from.
Then again, the other opinions could simply be provided by such individuals trying to justify themselves haha
Also, I realize that knowing I can't have anything at any given time means that I appreciate what I do have. I have worked for what I have.
Being a father, I'd love to provide my son with all of the great things that I didn't have as a child, but I also realize that raising a child in such a manner usually doesn't result in a responsible, mature adolescent. Therefore I choose not "spoil" him, and any temper tantrums that are thrown around, are quickly dismissed and whatever the tantrum was over is out the window.
In short, I have to side with 2extreme on this, but I can see where some of the other opinions on this subject may come from.
Then again, the other opinions could simply be provided by such individuals trying to justify themselves haha